Question: What do you do to stay motivated when everything seems so hard?

Sometimes, it’s really difficult to answer that. I don’t know if I ever mentioned it, but I’ve been dealing with health issues for a little while—though I’m doing much better now, and getting healthier each day, thanks for asking! 😉 But during that time, during the hard parts, it was hell. Not only did I have to temporarily give up working and rely on others, I lost my concentration and what I thought was my ability to write. I spiraled into depression, feeling weak and useless. Upset and fearful that my journey to someday become a bestselling author had hit its end.

Writing, in the physical and mental condition I was in, had become a real chore. One I avoided as much as possible by binge watching TV shows. But then the guilt would eat at me, and just… *sigh*. It was not a pleasant time, as you can probably imagine.

When I started to get better, I knew I wanted to return to my writing and editing with a vengeance! Thing was, it wasn’t as easy as I thought it’d be. It didn’t help that I’d returned to finish edits on one of my WIPs, which—as we know—editing can be so tedious sometimes. I was sad to admit, but I’d lost my motivation, even though the desire was still there.

I’d love to say that what helped get my mojo back was all the kind words and love and support from my family, friends, and writing community. But to be honest, I was barely on social media and not really talking about my writerly struggles with my family. What really was the motivator for me to come back to my writing with a newfound passion was none other than J.R. Ward.

I know, I probably gush over her a lot, but seeing her amazing Q&A at the Nashville Public Library, listening to her speak about how regimented she is, and seeing her success in all its glory, I couldn’t help envisioning all of that for myself. How I’d love to have those types of book signings and Q&As with an amazing fan base… She is, and has been for a while, what a successful writer looks like to me. And if I want that success for myself, perhaps I need to be as disciplined as her. That was the push I needed to get myself going.

It still isn’t easy, but I’m working on it. I find that listening to my favorite authors speak about writing and their careers, and envisioning the success that I want, is really helping to motivate me to get back into it.

What about you? I’d love to hear from you all on what it is that helps motivate you when you’re going through life and can’t seem to focus or work. This isn’t for the writers, only. I want to hear from all types of people about all types of things whether it is job-related or hobbies, or anything. Or just say hi! I like that too. 🙂

P.S. You can watch J.R. Ward’s hilarious and awesome library event here.

Until next time,



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